In 1974 she met feminist writer and activist John Stoltenberg when they both walked out on a poetry reading in Greenwich Village over misogynist material. They became close friends and eventually came to live together.  Stoltenberg wrote a series of radical feminist books and articles on masculinity . Although Dworkin publicly wrote "I love John with my heart and soul"  and Stoltenberg described Dworkin as "the love of my life",  she continued to publicly identify herself as lesbian , and he as gay . Stoltenberg, recounting the perplexity that their relationship seemed to cause people in the press, summarized the relationship by saying, "So I state only the simplest facts publicly: yes, Andrea and I live together and love each other and we are each other's life partner , and yes we are both out ."